Tuesday, September 10, 2013

The Carpool: Do's and Don'ts









It’s official.  We’re a carpool family.






 
Do

1.     Know the names and addresses of the children for whom you are responsible on your car pool days.

2.     Try to meet the parents of your charges at least once before assuming the care and keeping of their most precious possession; there could be legal ramifications if you don’t.

3.     Ask your carpool charges if they had a good night sleep; it’s potentially helpful if kids in your care are mostly conscious in the event that you have a heart attack or stroke behind the wheel of the car.

4.     Listen carefully to the conversation among carpool passengers; you can pick up valuable intelligence about the social folkways, fast friends and fierce “frienamies” that need to be monitored as your child makes the passage from tween to teen.

5.     Leave the house at least 5 minutes earlier than you should; it’s less stressful to wait than be late.

6.     Alert your school that you are a participant in a carpool; you don’t want to get arrested for kidnapping. 

Don’t

1.      Do not pick a fight with the mom who is the carpool leader as Leader Moms characteristically have a touch of OCD and abhor last minute changes to the schedule; rest assured you will need the Leader Mom’s cooperation with a last minute change request at some point during the school year.

2.     Don’t forget to check you phone before you go to sleep at night for the text message or email alerting you to a last minute change in the schedule.  Even if it’s midnight.

3.     Don’t pick a fight with the mom who makes the last minute change in your schedule (at midnight) for obvious reasons (see #1) – you need them as much or more than they need you.

4.     Don’t try to engage in conversation with your charges; they’ll completely shut down on you and then you won’t get the valuable intelligence you need about their real life at school.

5.     Don’t forget that you are invisible to the children in your care, until you are not – and there’s power in that.

Happy carpooling!

 

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